My personal Dating Ten Commandments
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Posted:Jun 22, 2005 1:39 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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1. Enjoy yourself, life and our time together.
2. Don't tell me too much about your ex-lovers, girlfriends, family, work, politics, religion, tv shows; we are lovers!
3. Compliment me and accept my compliments.
4. Don't trade sex for money or trinkets; it is freely offered for mutual pleasure.
5. Good hygiene is important for everyone.
6. Honesty to a point is preferred, unless you have a good reason. Hiding std's is not a good reason.
7. Standing me up without a call is inexcusable.
8. If you are uncomfortable tell me as I am not a mind reader. If you say there is nothing wrong then mean it and nothing will be wrong.
9. Do not assume I am the same as your ex and will do the same dumb, hurtful things he did. I will do some different things, which may be bad but could be different!
10. We will stay together as long as we continue to enjoy each other's company. Either of us can decide to end; I have lots of patience and will give you the benefit of the doubt.
Your Ten?
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How many partners can you juggle?
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Posted:Jun 22, 2005 11:03 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Many people seem to prefer one lover at a time. Others seem to enjoy playing with several, juggling their time and needs. Sort of like reading several books at a time. Gets tough
I generally have just one relationship, going but at times in my life I have balanced a wife and one or two lovers! Took lots of energy and time, but it was fun for a short while.
Lets hear your thoughts. Could make it easier by bringing them all together for sex, but that never seemed a smart plan. 
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Blogging as sublimation
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Posted:Jun 22, 2005 10:58 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Some people seem to be spending way too much time blogging, threading, chatting, and not enough time screwing! Writing is educational, but lets put the sex back in our bodies instead of our heads.
You cannot get an std from blogging, but you cannot get laid either!
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Forgiveness
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Posted:Jun 22, 2005 10:56 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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The key thing to avoiding craziness is to forgive others and the world for being so screwed up.
Being bitter just hurts you, and does not solve any problem. A recent study of nuns diaries showed that the angry bitter ones died much earlier than the happy optimistic ones. (They study nuns because they cooperate, stay in one place, keep diaries and are willing to share to help science.) I don't plan on becoming a happy nun!
So repeat after me: I forgive them their trespasses against me, as I hope they will forgive me my tresspasses.
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Guys will do just about anything to get laid!
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Posted:Jun 21, 2005 1:43 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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I have to laugh at the male sex drive. Guys will do just about anything to get laid. Yes we will.
Some examples: A profile by swf42 asks for a guy to have sex with her in front of another guy who has a fantasy she wants to fulfill. So she is asking me to give sexual pleasure to some third guy. Not to please her or me, but some other guy! Strange, but many guys would do it to get laid, including me perhaps!
Another profile seeks guys to be butt-fucked by a female with a strap on and then the guy gets to masturbate himself or with some assistance, it wasn't clear. Some guys would do this too!
I could go on, but is this a ridiculous sex drive or what? Socrates supposedly said he was happy when he stopped being driven by this desire. Wonder if I will feel no longer whipped by this overmastering urge when and if the feeling passes? So a little charity from those darling females who may feel less urgent prods.
Yes I know some women are also driven, but apparently fewer if AdultFriendFinder is any measure.
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Sex is healthy!
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Posted:Jun 21, 2005 1:30 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Read a good column by Dr. Gifford Jones on the internet about eight good reasons to make love:
1. Good exercise and burns up calories;
2. a BMJ study of 1000 middle aged males in Ireland showed the men with highest sex frequency had a death rate of 50% lower than the less active, over a ten year period; YEAH!
3. A Queen's Univ. study found men who had sex three plus times a week cut their risk of a heart attack in half! Yes!
4. Sex decreases pain from arthritis due to releasing oxytocin;
5. Sex prevents prostatitis in men;
6. Wilkes Univ study claims those who have sex once or twice a week have 30% higher level of an antibody;
7. Sex releives depression, tension and aids sleeping with no bad side effects of pills;
8. Sex bonds couples together better than any other activity known!
I am convinced. Anecdotal evidence also shows that it makes women age less and increases their beauty by smoothing out those wrinkles.
I have a theory that an orgasm acts like a brain reset button and allows you to reboot eliminating many bad vibes from daily living. Shock therapy was based on the notion that a shock to the system discharged neurotic thoughts, etc. People were calmer after the discharge. Sex provides a far nicer and less damaging shock to the system!
Of course sex hardly needs more pr to be desired, but positive ads never hurt!
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Inconsideration
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Posted:Jun 21, 2005 10:52 am
Last Updated:Sep 7, 2007 7:47 am
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My mate does some inconsiderate things which never fail to tick me off, despite doing them for decades:
Failing to return stuff like scissors, stampler, tape, corkscrew, etc. to the same spot designated as their home location.
Not closing kitchen drawers, cabinet doors and closet doors after use.
Leaving used dental floss and tissues on chairs, tables and desks.
Not replacing toliet paper roll after using it up (much more significant than the toliet seat position in my opinion).
Sealing cards and envelopes to mutual friends and our without allowing me to sign my name or add my message.
She always justifies this behavior by saying she is in a hurry. So that makes it ok? To make your mate feel unimportant because you are rushed is not a good idea.
How long does it take to close a drawer or throw away a used tissue? I am only a partial neatness freak and do clean more than her, but the issue is more about consideration for the other guy.
Some people just do not get it, and that is a shame.
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Normal sex frequency
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Posted:Jun 21, 2005 10:35 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Reading sex surveys about what is normal frequency for sexual activity. Cannot tell if this includes all sex such as masturbation. According to one survey of 3000 aged 29 to 31, the average was 7 times a month or less than twice a week. Decreasing at age 60 to about 1 to 2 times per month!
Well here is to being above average! As I said before, I prefer 1-2 a day and do not intend to slack off unless I have to!
Also average time for intercourse before orgasm, measured with stop watches, was under two minutes for those described as premature ejaculators and 7 to 10 minutes for normals! Guess I am just slow, because it takes me a long time, 40 minutes to an hour sometimes! Getting there is more than half the fun! Why be normal if that is not an advantage? Like Yogi Bearra, I will be smarter than the average bear!
I did not plan being this way but I will just accept it and enjoy. Your thoughts?
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Men are dogs!
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Posted:Jun 20, 2005 5:10 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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So many women knock men for our generosity toward the female gender. Why criticize us guys for being so helpful in offering to provide sexual joy? Male generosity is largely why humans are not an endangered species.
Even unattractive women can usually find some guy offering to provide sexual release. But do women ever celebrate males kind and open nature? No they criticize us for not being more selective! They prefer us to be more discriminating. We are, we just don't want to disappoint those less gifted or attractive females and make them feel bad. Call it mercy fucking. Or just basic friendliness. Guys do notice the difference, but are just helpful to those who are not so blessed with ravishing looks, etc.
So ladies lets hear it for those helpful males!
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Interracial couples
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Posted:Jun 20, 2005 1:22 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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While in Las Vegas this weekend saw three black and white couples: all well dressed black men with blonde women. Like Sammie Davis, Jr. having a blonde woman is a status symbol. What happened to the Black woman with a blonde male? I have never seen that couple. Perhaps Mariah Carey or Diana Ross should start this trend or have done so as I do not read People magazine.
Funny how status is important in relationships. usually the couple is of similar attractiveness in appearance. When there is a large disparity, usually the guy's money/power/wealth made the difference. What I call the Aristotle Onassis factor (recall he married Jackie Kennedy  and it wasn't for his looks!
So Black women start grabbing some White male boy toys! You deserve too.
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Too honest for many
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Posted:Jun 20, 2005 11:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 9, 2007 11:01 am
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I have posted a thread in AdultFriendFinder bootcamp 101 that got a lot of folks riled. I simply explained my viewpoint of why this married man cheats. Nothing earth shattering but got a lot of knickers in a twist, as the Brits say.
Infidelity is very common, 60 to 80% of all marrieds admit to cheating according to surveys. The sanctimonious try to judge what they do not understand.
My points are quite simple. If you do not put out with your lover eventually he or she will find someone more interested in satisfying lust. And your mate might anyway for variety sake. It is not so terrible! I was so possessive when young and now I realize that was so stupid.
As for dishonesty, we are all dishonest to some extent. And most would prefer to avoid confrontation and not know! My mate turns a blind eye and does not want to know or change.
Infidelity does not mean you do not love your mate, just have needs he or she do not or cannot fulfill. How is swinging more virtuous? Because you know the infidelity makes it ok? More honest perhaps but less sinful? Not in any religion I know about.
Interesting all the controversy and knocks on a married man. Several married females chimed in they were neglected by their husbands and no one jumped on them for seeking pleasure elsewhere. A new form of double standard?
My preferred playmate is a local married woman who is in the same boat, being neglected sexually. You know who you are and I hope we will eventually hook up! Lets stay discreet and enjoy life before it is too late!
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No way to fake an orgasm
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Posted:Jun 20, 2005 8:44 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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Why bother trying to fake an orgasm? Be honest and just say its not happening, lets try again later!
Guys cannot fake easily as they ejaculate semen with a real orgasm. Pretty obvious!
Women can pretend easier, but aware partners know the vagina convulses several times and that cannot be faked. Actions speak louder than words. No convulsing vagina, no orgasm.
Don't bother faking it, just do over later!
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Nobody's perfect!
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Posted:Jun 20, 2005 8:18 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:27 pm
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I have to laugh at those benighted souls searching for the perfect male or female. Those who are religious recall only God and Jesus are perfect. The rest of us are fallible. No big deal? WRONG!
The search for perfection eliminates the enjoyment of the possible. The ideal is the enemy of the real.
Fools say I will not compromise, I will not lower my standards! Are they perfect? Not even close. I feel those with impossible dreams are simply avoiding intimacy and emotional possibility.
Self delusion is the most popular game.
Consider that our flaws are what makes us human and lovable, not just our strengths.
So lets get real!
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