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Why Are Men LIKE That? Part III: Answers To Your Questions
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Why Are Men LIKE That? Part III: Answers To Your Questions While I don't seem to get many local ladies interested in me, I DO get a lot of ladies hundreds and thousands of miles away from me interested... and most of them really want to know what the deal is with men. Since I tend to be honest, and I think it's better to reveal rather than conceal, I answer any and all questions they field me as best as I can. I'm no Dr. Phil, but I'd like to think I have an insight into humanity. In that regard, I thought I'd answer several questions I've been getting from you ladies about why we men act the way we do. Since none of these really warrant an entire post, I'm answering several questions. And if you have other questions, feel free to leave a comment or send me a message... I'll do my best.  Question 1: Why are men such babies when they get sick? - While the actual answer is going to depend on your particular man, I can be general about it, because most guys are going to fall into these reasons. First of all, he's most likely genuinely, seriously sick. Like I've mentioned in the past, most men are taught to "suck it up and drive on", and that includes being sick. This typically means that when he's just feeling under the weather or run down due to a cold or allergies or something, he will ignore it and keep doing what he needs to do rather than take care of himself. If a guy is sick to the point of being stuck in bed and unable to take care of himself, it means he's a lot sicker than you may originally think. Of course, he might be gold-bricking if he's the type, but your run-of-the-mill guy will run himself into the ground before admitting he not able to go anymore. Also, unlike pain that guys can "power through", sickness goes around our strength and hits us where we can't fight. In other words, we feel helpless against it, and this always makes men feel rotten... we're taught to never allow ourselves to be helpless, and our own bodies (which we depend on) have failed us. And, of course, it's our chance to be vulnerable, for once. This isn't something we can control, so we feel that it's okay to finally let down our guard around you ladies. We feel the need to be mothered a bit so we'll feel better, just like you do, but unlike you ladies, we men have been trained to believe we're not allowed to feel this way, sooooo.... we don't handle it very well, and we act a little babyish about it. Besides, don't you want to be babied a little when you're sick? Damn sure I don't want to do anything when I'm seriously ill, so I can imagine no one else does, either. Question 2: Why don't men seem to care about decorating the house? Or fashion? Or the details of our wedding? Or... hell, ANYTHING that makes things look better??? - This is a slightly unfair question, but an understandable one. We men actually DO care. Well, okay, that's not quite right... we CARE, but not nearly as much as you ladies do. Like any human being, men want to live in beautiful surroundings and clean, well-kept places. We want to be perceived as looking good and having the things around us looking good. And I don't mean "clean"... that should be a given. I mean "looking good". It's an ego thing, admittedly... but are you ladies going to say it's not an ego thing for you, too? I'll call you a liar if you do. The difference is, again, how we men are brought up. When you think of guys who have style, flair, and a sense of fashion and decor, what do you think of? Gay men, right? While it's a stereotype, it's a stereotype that is rooted in a lot of fact. After all, just about every male fashion expert, home decorator, and wedding planner is gay, or metro-sexual, or acts gay to "fit the image". While being gay isn't really much of a stigma anymore (please don't argue that point; this isn't a political speech, it's a blog... there's no need to nitpick), most straight men don't want anyone to think they're gay... after all, it's isn't "manly", and they want to attract women, not men. So what do we men do, when confronted with "Honey, what do you think of THIS color?", we tend to respond with neutral or noncommittal comments. If your man says, "I don't know... the robin's egg blue, I guess...", that's not him being an ass or not caring. He cares, and he just made his choice in the most "manly" way he can get away with. And if you were to say "But... I like the royal blue better!", he's probably going to be fine with it. Partly because he doesn't want to argue about something like that, and partly... He may not really know, and he may genuinely not care. It's not because he's a jerk, it's because men tend to be functional over form. Again, it has to do with upbringing. Most guys aren't taught squat about decorating and fashion... we learn from watching; unlike women, whose mothers take them on weekly clothes-shopping trips and teach them the finer details of life. Men? We follow our fathers to the tools and electronics and such, because those are "manly", they have function, they have purpose beyond eye-candy... and because they're shiny and neat and we like them.  But our fathers aren't teaching us about fashion, and mothers don't usually try. After all, it's a girl thing.Question 3: "Man Up!" Why would a guy get so upset when I say that? - Really? You don't understand that? I had a woman tell me that guys get seriously pissed when she says that, and wanted to know why. Since this is also a pet peeve of mine, I'll explain. But before I do, get your ass back in the kitchen where you belong! Didn't like that, huh? It's about the same thing. Not to be nasty, but you women have no idea what it's like to be a man. None at all. Men have no idea what it's like to be a woman, either. We're quite distinctly different, and we're supposed to be. We're intended to compliment each other, to complete each other, to fill the gaps in each other's holes. Heh heh... I just realized how that sounded. One of the most insulting things a woman can tell me is "Man up!" I will look her dead in the eye and tell her to go fuck herself, because she has no idea what she's talking about. A woman who says that to a man has some perfect image of how a man needs to act, firmly latched in her head, and she saying that I don't fit her bill. Well, why the hell should I? Are you fitting MINE? I'm sorry, am I not fitting your White Knight In Shining Armor image you have built up? If we're going to go back to that, put your ballgown back on, hammer on those glass slippers, and go back to knitting and being a useless princess, honey! I was under the impression we're in a liberated society here. Guess what? That means we guys don't have to fit your outdated image of "being a man" anymore than you have to fit a man's outdated image of "being a woman"! You can't have it both ways. Women gripe and complain how their man isn't sensitive to their feelings; but if they actually FIND a man who is, suddenly he's not MAN enough for her. Women want to be treated as being an "equal to a man", but then cry how men don't hold the door open for her or throw his jacket into a puddle for her to step on. Hey, you asked for it... you got it! Just because you've discovered that being treated like men have been treated for millennia, don't come crying to us about it. You had your chance to remain helpless and mooned over, and you gave it up for equality. Personally, I think it's for the best. I've always felt that equality is best in any relationship. And I'm not saying all women are like that, because they aren't... in fact, most women have embraced their equality and act quite responsibly and ably. I think it's awesome. Yes, there are some men out there who still hold down that glass ceiling, but there are some people out there who also hold onto racism and every other nasty belief system America tries to wipe out. Hey, it's on the law books and it's enforced EXTREMELY heavily... you really can't expect more than what's been done, outside of prosecuting the individuals who break those laws that are in place. But "Man up"??? With that phrase, you've just proven that you aren't actually interested in sexual equality at all. With that phrase, you just let the Spoiled Princess out, and removed all of your credibility. You just joined the ranks of those sexist men who love to tell women to "Get back in the kitchen", call women bitches and whores, and slap women around because they have issues. In other words... you're no better than the scum of the earth. Yeah, it's like that. Don't ever tell me to "Man up". If you don't like who I am and how I act, there's the door. Don't let it hit you in the ass on the way out... I don't want to have to wipe the shit you're full of off of it afterwards. Sorry... got a little heated there. If I upset anyone with my minor rant there, sorry. You know how irritating pet peeves can be. Question 4: Why is it always the guys who come up with the weird sexual things? All the most twisted sex things seem to come from men... what's up with that? - Good question, and it deserves a good answer. Beats the hell out of me. If I had to guess, it goes back to the same lack of training we men get about dealing with our feelings. Many guys are never taught to deal with their emotions, but we're taught that sex is awesome. So, since for some guys sex is the only outlet they have, and that outlet is ultimately not going to satisfy their need to express their emotions, they're going to start turning to ANYTHING that might be comforting. When it fails, they'll continue falling back on sex, since that's all they know, and the spiral continues. It's similar to how drugs hook you. But honestly... I really have no idea where some of this weird shit comes from. How anyone can get a sexual thrill from being pissed on, or shoving giant things into their penises, or otherwise self-mutilate themselves in the name of sexual fulfillment... it's beyond me. I might be a little kinky, but some of that shit is seriously twisted. I just don't know. You may need to ask a psychiatrist about that, they'd know more than I would. . Do you have any questions about men for me to answer? I'm not the know-all, end-all... but I'll try. If they're big questions, I'll likely create another Why Are Men LIKE That? post dedicated to you! If they're minor, I'll just answer them here. The lines are open. Operators are standing by. CALL NOW! .  Your Friendly Neighborhood King of the Jungle, The Lion. READ THIS! ------>>>lionthatroared I DARE you to read my blog and attempt to be unchanged by sheer, utter AWESOMENESS!!! It's like Kung-Fu Panda fighting Super Models with heavy metal music pumping in the background... hyped up on Rockstar energy drinks! And... whipped cream with chocolate sprinkles! And... laser-guided sex toys are probably involved! And... and... oh, I know... I'm pretty sure Chuck Norris roundhouse-kicked it at some point! |
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I got a husband who is coming down with a cold right now and he will be come a big baby whom I will have to deal with.. Now when I am sick .. tells me to suck it up .. continue on.. Why who knows they are. Most of us are attracted to lots who are a million miles away just the way it is.. Same for men and women Now a question for you what are you looking for in a women? What is your age range? Patient is what I say something always seems to turn up if you are.. hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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Lion all good comments back. I deal with him tomorrow as he is home off work and sick at home with me. Snuggling well that is an excellent idea. I just wanted to make sure everyone know what your looking for in a women again just in case they have not read your blog or profile. Quick reference guide to you. One day she will appear. We will just keep looking. hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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You should further expand on the first part of the blog.. about the why do you attract women far away, but the ones close never respond? ~Linc was here.~
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