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Sweet Nothings In My Ear
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Sweet Nothings In My Ear Ah, those little things we all say to each other before, during and/or after sex... I do love them. Unless you're the type who doesn't like talking at all during coital bliss (which, if you are, I feel bad for you... you're missing out on a delightful level of the sexual experience), just about everyone ends up saying things to their partner in the process of lovemaking. I think that's healthy. Open communication between you and your partner makes for better sex, a closer relationship, and can heighten the excitement. Now, I realize this isn't every man's cup of tea, but I actually LIKE it when a woman tells me how to pleasure her. She most likely knows what she likes more than I do, and if she's willing to say "A little to the right, Lion... up a bit... YES! RIGHT THERE!" then not only am I saving a lot of energy and time trying to find her sweet spot, SHE is going to have a lot more fun while I'm performing. I'm also willing to give instruction, although lately, that really hasn't been an issue... since I stick to women in my own age group, and they've been having sex for YEARS, most of them know how to pleasure a man very adequately. But different strokes for different folks, and what works on some people often doesn't work on others... so... communication. Not just that, but I LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear a woman compliment me on... well... any part of sex! One of the most erotic things a woman has ever said to me was "Oh my God, Lion... did your cock just get BIGGER inside me???" I got so turned on by her genuine reaction and her telling me how much I was filling her pussy that I came about five strokes later... and at the time, I wasn't all that close. It was hot as hell! Of course, EVERY guy likes to be told that he's great in bed (although, if he's not, be nice and maybe help him get better with the above-mentioned communication), and just about the best compliment a woman can give to a man is this: "I think you may be the best lover I've ever had." Oh my... let me tell you, ladies... that's a great way to make a guy try harder on you! You may think a guy will get lacksidaisical with his lovemaking after saying that, but for most guys the opposite is true: you tell him that he's amazing in bed, and he'll want to keep proving it to you! It's our ego that will keep us wanting to keep you happy! Trust me, it works.  However, having said that... if it's not true, don't say it. Some guys are dense enough to believe anything you tell him, but most guys are fairly perceptive. They may WANT to believe it, but if they detect the slightest sarcasm or falsity in your voice or body language, that line can backfire big time. It may lead him to start questioning whether he's doing anything for you at all, and that will get him nowhere, fast. The best thing to do is be honest with him about his sexual prowess. If he's good, TELL HIM! Guys love to hear that, and it makes them work harder to KEEP you thinking that! If he's bad or just okay, then it's time to start talking to him... it's very possible that he thinks he's doing everything right. We guys are not mind-readers, and none of us are born with "awesome lover" in our resume's. Just like everything else, great sex is a learning process, and that process becomes a LOT easier if you're willing to talk to him. Guys... same goes. Only for us, it's a little different. We guys have some fairly big egos. Admit it... you do. We all do. It's sort of bred into us to have big egos. The trick for us mature fellows is to learn to keep it in check when dealing with others. For some, that's a lifelong struggle, and for others, we learn to be mature about our self-esteem and our manhood as time goes on. But it's a fact that we LOVE it when our partners stroke our egos. Oh, SOOOOO much! I personally feel like a million bucks when a woman strokes my ego, even more than when she strokes my cock. But since we guys have such big egos, they are by default somewhat fragile. A woman can make us feel like shit with a single well-timed phrase designed to cut us deep. My ex-wife caused some fairly serious damage to my ego while we were married, and it took a lot of years to rebuild it. I've been good with myself for several years now, but man... a woman can kill a man with words, believe it. So guys, if you plan to improve as a lover, you're going to have to do something that may go against the grain... you're going to have to ask your partner how to pleasure her better. If she tells you you're doing great, then for her sake, I hope she's telling the truth, and motor on. But the difference between a bad lover, a good lover, and a great lover is the man's willingness to take criticism and apply it to his lovemaking skills. We may all THINK we're gods in the sheets, but even Casanova took instructions from his lovers. Knowledge is power, fellas... and what better power do you want, eh? Besides, doesn't it ROCK when a woman orgasms from your efforts to please her?  Now, about dirty talk. This can go a lot of directions. Personally, I would advise having an open discussion about talking dirty to each other. Some people really like it, some sort of like it, some don't like it at all. Some people are good at it, some are okay, and some are horrible at it. A lot of people are embarrassed to talk dirty to their lovers; many have no idea what to say to those who DO want to be talked dirty to. The best thing you can do is ask each other if they like dirty-talk, and what kind of dirty-talk they like. Me, I like SOME dirty talk. A woman telling me every tiny detail about how I'm going to hung by my nipples to lick her asshole while she fucks a sheep is NOT going to turn me on! But her telling me how great she feels as I'm licking her pussy? HELL YES! Her telling me how she wants me to slap her with my cock? Good to know, but not doing anything for me. Her telling me she wants me to fill her with my HUGE COCK, however, is going to win major points! Yeah, I'm one of those guys who likes it when a woman tells me how much she gets filled by my cock and how much she loves how big it is... I mentioned men have big egos, right? I'm no exception. If she wants me to talk dirty to her, I have no problem with that. I have a pretty good imagination, and a little experience with whispering in her ear how badly I want her to cum all over me. If she's willing to tell me what her brand of dirty-talk is, hopefully it's something I also get into... again, the whole hanging-from-the-chandeliers-by-a-cock-ring-while-she-shits-on-my-chest thing is NOT going to do it for me, and I damn sure am not going to talk about it! By the way, both of those extreme examples have, I'm a little frightened to say, been suggested to me by former lovers. And those aren't even the worst ones! I won't tell you the worst ones, you'll lose whatever good feelings you currently have. Yikes. How about you all? What's your poison when it comes to talking in the bedroom? Do you like it? Do you prefer the quiet? Do you like to be talked to like a bad, bad boy/girl, or are you particularly good at talking dirty? Do you have a great story to share about it? Whisper in my ear how much you like it, you dirty, dirty girl... .  Your Friendly Neighborhood King of the Jungle, The Lion. READ THIS! ------>>>lionthatroared I DARE you to read my blog and attempt to be unchanged by sheer, utter AWESOMENESS!!! It's like Kung-Fu Panda fighting Super Models with heavy metal music pumping in the background... hyped up on Rockstar energy drinks! And... whipped cream with chocolate sprinkles! And... laser-guided sex toys are probably involved! And... and... oh, I know... I'm pretty sure Chuck Norris roundhouse-kicked it at some point! |
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