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Facing Reality Sucks. Part I
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Facing Reality Sucks. Part I I usually try to write to both sexes on this blog. Often, I'm writing just to the ladies, but rarely to just the guys. This is one of those rare occasions that guys should pay attention. I'm sure you've all heard the old adage: "When you stop looking for love, that's when love finds you." I'm sure that in some alternate universe, that adage is true. But in this universe, it's only partially true. When a woman stops looking for love, a man will come along and sweep her off her feet. When a man stops looking for love, he's fucked. Think I'm cynical? I am all too accurate. Despite the decades of women's liberation and sexual equality and freedom, we Americans are still stuck in the mentality that men must chase and women must be caught. Yes, of course there are exceptions to every rule, but in my 25 years of interactions with the opposite sex, I have had to do the chasing every single time. Not one woman has ever hit on me. Not one. Oh, I've been flirted with. I've been teased. But I've never been seduced, never been asked out on a date, never been invited to go anywhere except in group settings, and in those group settings I've never been singled out, separated from the group, and hit on. Not one single time. If a woman flirts or teases, it's because she expects YOU to chase HER. It's almost never the other way around. I'm sure there are men out there who can honestly say that they've had women chase them, maybe even a few times, but I guarantee that, as a rule, those guys were ridiculously handsome or rich or dance on a stripper pole somewhere. Now, I'm not whining here. Well, not much. But it's just a fact of dating dynamics that women almost never hit on the guys; it's the other way around. Guys must hit on a woman if he expects to date her. If he's waiting for her to make the first move, he's going to die of old age, and he'll lose her to another guy who WILL hit on her. Not MIGHT hit on her... WILL. The actions you take, while hitting on her, are INSANELY important. Let that marinate in your brain for a minute. So fellas, let's look at some reality for a moment. Ladies, feel free to read on, but there are some hard slaps in the face coming, and it's up to you if you want to know this stuff. Guys... listen up, and start accepting some cold, hard knowledge... you need to know this. Fact #1 - Women do not think like you. Hmmm... you know what, that's not enough... let's try that again... FACT #1 - WOMEN DO NOT THINK LIKE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! Wrap your head around that, and let it sink in. Because most of you idiots are wrecking things for the rest of us who HAVE let that sink in. Men, I don't have to tell you that we are hard-wired to think about sex. Our DNA is programmed that way. It's not an excuse, it's a biological fact; feel free to do the research. Our bodies are built to want, need, and desire sex. We can be sitting around doing nothing, and suddenly we have an erection that comes from nowhere. We weren't thinking about women or sex or anything of that nature, and yet... there it is, screaming at us to satisfy the incredible urge to fuck. We hit puberty, and the mating instinct hits us hard and fast, and never truly lets us go until our bodies fail us. We wake up with morning wood, we go to bed feeling the urge, we can't look at a desirable woman without the desperate need to have sex, and we live with that need every single moment of every single day. It's not our fault... we were born that way. What IS our fault is how we handle that thinking. And the first thing you need to come to grips with is this: women don't have this screaming need we have. They don't understand it. They have no concept of the struggle we deal with when we're in the room with them. They can't comprehend the torture they put us through when they wear clothing that shows off their body in sexy ways. Oh, they know intellectually that they're driving us crazy, but in their minds, it's the same kind of crazy they experience when they're turned on. It's not the same. Not even remotely. They can experience a higher level of pleasure from their orgasms than we do, and longer and more often, but they don't have the kind of drive for sex that we do. They can and do enjoy, and even love, sex... but it's the rare woman indeed that experiences the raw, constant, unquenchable need for sex that men have. We don't understand the female sex drive, they don't understand ours. Intellectually, we can figure it out... but neither sex will ever truly get it. So you need to comprehend the fact that overt sexual advances are almost never going to work on a woman. They'll work on other men, because other men understand what you're dealing with, just like women understand other women and their views on sex. It's one of the allures of homosexuality... that basic understanding of what's driving your sex drive. But the only time telling a total stranger "Hey, I want to fuck your ass and lick your pussy, wanna suck my dick?" is ever going to get you anywhere... is with a . Not a single woman anywhere on this planet that has a shred of self-respect is going to give those kinds of advances any sort of credence. Oh, don't get me wrong... they may flirt with you, they may even accept the advances on a conditional level and give as good as they get. But if the woman has any self-respect at all, she's going to shut you down, or at the very least, make you hit the brakes. Because while THEY can say that to US, and WE MEN get excited with that kind of forward sexual aggression, the VAST, VAST, VAST majority of women DO NOT. Not from someone they don't know. Their DNA isn't built like that. Ours is. Once they get to know you, get comfortable with you, find out that you're not some weird creep who's going to axe-murder them in their sleep? THEN you can sexy-talk them all you like, and women will likely be more receptive to that. Not all women. And there are exceptions to every rule, such as those women with serious emotional damage from their past and desperately trying to cover their pain with sex. But you must never, never, NEVER assume the woman you're talking to is the exception! NEVER!!! Because you aren't just ruining your own chances of having sex with a woman. You're ruining it for every other guy on the planet. You're doing a virtual world-wide cock-block. Every time a woman gets one of those blatant sexual advances, her faith in men as a whole gets lessened. Her interest wanes just a little bit more. And it gets harder and harder and harder for a man to gain her trust. Which, in turn, makes her more cynical, drives her interest away from finding a man, and makes her more and more unapproachable. Eventually, she just gives up on the idea that there are any decent men in the world. Why? Because you're acting like a prick, that's why! Save that bullshit for the stoned women at the raves and the prostitutes walking the street, because that's the only place that horseshit is ever going to work. This site is not the exception to this rule. Women are putting up pics of their boobs and ass and pussy because they want to feel sexy, they want you interested, and they want to attract a good man who will make them feel like a woman. It's not because they want to fuck every man on the planet! THEY DON'T THINK LIKE MEN!!! Stop treating them like they do! I'm telling you right now. You really want to get laid? Stop thinking about the short game, and start working the long game. You want to send a message to a woman you're hoping to nail? Go with a respectful tone, and a friendly attitude... not a horny tone with a "Fuck me now, I'm screaming desperate!" attitude. It does not work. And you're only fucking yourself over. Stay tuned... Part II is coming up. Your Friendly Neighborhood King of the Jungle, The Lion. READ THIS! ------>>>lionthatroared I DARE you to read my blog and attempt to be unchanged by sheer, utter AWESOMENESS!!! It's like Kung-Fu Panda fighting Super Models with heavy metal music pumping in the background... hyped up on Rockstar energy drinks! And... whipped cream with chocolate sprinkles! And... laser-guided sex toys are probably involved! And... and... oh, I know... I'm pretty sure Chuck Norris roundhouse-kicked it at some point! |
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One of the biggest problems I have (because I cannot / will not speak for the rest of my gender -- since I'm SOO far removed from them that vast majority of times) is a man "thinking" for me ... And I'm already screwed by the time that happens. It's his projecting his issues onto me, trying to make them my problems. Is this specific to the gender? No, but it's more testosterone-laden than not. Men are "programmed" to be problem solvers. As such, they believe it's their duty / right to think for me -- know what's best -- for me ... without consulting me. It's a huge pet peeve ... HUGE. That said, you're right about a lot of in this post. However, the biggest reason I don't pursue (again, speaking only for myself) is I am very unsure of the reception. I'll admit that I am unwilling to put myself out there to be shot down. I'd wager that's how a lot of women are ... regardless if they admit it. Look ... Self-examination is not how well I / you look in the mirror. So I'm making a sincere effort *to* actively pursue more. It's what / whom is being pursued that probably differs from male to female.  This is my blog - [blog _Safira]. There are many like it, but this one is mine. RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me
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Safira, this is exactly why I follow your blog. Allow me to respond. I warned you this would be a huge slap in the face. I knew when I wrote it that many women would get upset, and a lot of men would be pissed as hell. All I can say to that part is... I would never try to do your thinking for you. That's not what this is for. This is to wake men up, not piss women off. Not everything I write will be well-received. I accept that responsibility. As for you not pursuing... do you think it's any easier for men? Especially guys who have been shot down more times than they're accepted? Our ego is just as fragile as a woman's, and yet we're expected to take all the risks. Women's liberation needs to start progressing to the point of stepping up and taking action in the pursuit of the men they're attracted to, or they're never going to be accepted as truly equal. Men know this. Hell, many men count on it. And good for you, stepping up to pursue those you like. Set that example, girl! I applaud your bravery! You do what so many women don't even try.  Your Friendly Neighborhood King of the Jungle, The Lion. READ THIS! ------>>>lionthatroared I DARE you to read my blog and attempt to be unchanged by sheer, utter AWESOMENESS!!! It's like Kung-Fu Panda fighting Super Models with heavy metal music pumping in the background... hyped up on Rockstar energy drinks! And... whipped cream with chocolate sprinkles! And... laser-guided sex toys are probably involved! And... and... oh, I know... I'm pretty sure Chuck Norris roundhouse-kicked it at some point!
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Hey ... For the record? I wasn't peeved at your post.  More importantly, it's YOUR space to write what you want / feel needs to be said. So kudos to you, too! This is my blog - [blog _Safira]. There are many like it, but this one is mine. RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me
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