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12/27/2011 11:54 am |
ass4u1...You are so right that this does become addicting. And I also felt guilty at the beginning but now I realize that I Love my husband more and at least were enjoying all of this together and he nor I am out sleeping around on eachother. Good Luck (and your very beautiful)
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12/27/2011 12:15 pm |
Well, I am not currently married; however, when I was...swinging was a hard thing to get straight in my mind. We marry a man, make vows to him and before GOD and our friends/family that we will be ONLY with them...forsaking ALL OTHERS. Well...here we are, having sex with other people. Even though we both may be doing this, is it right? I would stir up a tornado; but, I didn't feel right about it, and I won't do a married man now that I am single. It's an individual thing, and it's about how YOU feel about it. Only you know how you really feel, and if it goes against your beliefs, your morals, or causes guilt that you don't feel comfortable with. What I am trying to say is ... other people will NEVER understand. It's between you and your husband. Lastly...You are gorgeous, and you do not look 39.
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ty to all!...but 1 thing.. what if hubby has no idea i am doing this!!! OMG! lol we are NOT swinging! lol this is my thing.... now what!
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I've been on both sides of this fence. What I always think: Put yourself in their place. Turn the tables. How would you feel if he were on here? How would you feel if he was steppin out? This isn't an "answer," it's just a question. How would you feel? For idle hearts, hands, and minds. The devil's in the details. Visit my blog, dongiovanni2644.
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They made the sitcom 2 &1/2 men. It would seem that there are few women who enjoy sex and a whole lot who do not. My ex was one who did not. Once or twice a month was tooo much and none was perfect. The stats on here bear out the ratio of women looking for sex in comparison to men. I didn't cheat on my ex, but I should have, the result was the same.
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Very hot!
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yes! lets havefun2011...same here...married 20yrs..str8 outta hs... but unlike you...we do carry on a normal sex life...and normal married life...OMG!..its me!...i get these crazy thoughts and desires that i dont act out with him..only others i have been with... like i have 2 personalities...im telling you 1/2 angel..1/2 devil... and i am afraid the devil always wins.....and i cant let that happen... its soooo addicting..what to do..lol plz no one tell me to seak out help either...im not tiger woods!!
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12/27/2011 3:08 pm |
message me sexy
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12/28/2011 7:50 am |
Being the devil's advocate again...How do you think he would feel about swinging? Perhaps he has some inner desires as well. This could be something you could do together ... instead of doing it behind his back. It could really rev up your sex life with your husband as well. Just a thought. It would be better than sneaking around. I have found that most men are open to that type of fun. Just sayin. 
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Do you ever wonder whether your husband is doing the same thing? Maybe you'll run into him here! I wish my wife was here as well...I still feel guilty and finding her here would cure that quickly! Have fun!
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Miss curious.....u sound experienced in this area...may i ask for your advice in how to even bring up a topic like that to hubby? He always says even thinkin bout someone else in your head is a form of cheatin...i see it as fantasizing and no big deal... how do you even bring that up to someone like him? 
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to belisarius... I wish sumtimes i wld find him on here! kinda makes me hot just thinkin bout it and it wld justify me doing it also! but yes i agree with you!
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12/28/2011 12:54 pm |
Miss curious.....u sound experienced in this area...may i ask for your advice in how to even bring up a topic like that to hubby? He always says even thinkin bout someone else in your head is a form of cheatin...i see it as fantasizing and no big deal... how do you even bring that up to someone like him? I think, if I were you, and you wanted to try such a thing, I would try pillow talk. Maybe in the dark so he can't see your face. It makes it easier when you don't want him to see right through you, and it's a time that you are feeling intimate and in tune to one another. Whether it's before or after sex...I can't say which is better. If he is open to it, it may make the sex really good because of the thought of it all .. and the anticipation. If he doesn't like it, he may roll over, and you won't get any. lol. But...I would say something like..."Babe...have you ever thought about being with someone else? I was reading something about swinging...or couples who are in the lifestyle, and I was wondering if it is something that you have ever thought about?" Assure him that you are NOT desiring a particular "someone else" .. but, that it somewhat intrigued you. I think that communication is key, and you need to be open with your partners when something is REALLY important to you. You may just be surprised that their mind has gone there as well, and we all know how men talk about "strange". The thing is, a lot of men/women may want the "strange"; but, may not want their partners to have it. You have to feel him out ... S L O W L YYYYY. Any other questions, you can feel free to contact me directly through email on here. Good luck hon.
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12/28/2011 12:59 pm |
ONE MORE THING...you have to decide how you would feel watching him with someone else. If you are the jealous type, it's NOT easy. Trust me, I know this from experience. It's a lot easier to be doing the one-sided thing like you are, and actually sharing the man you love with another woman. Claws tend to come out ... at least in the beginning. Thing long and hard about it, and talk talk talk to your partner ... if it does.
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1/21/2012 1:04 pm |
Same thing, after 20+ years I'm more into sex and experimenting while wife is not. I'm doing this more to keep sane and enjoy sexual situations before all I can do is read about them.
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I haven't played much as of late,but it was with a friend for a while that was ( well is ) married...with her thing,they been together since college and got married quickly.She was only with him,but wanted to try something different...nothing wrong in their marriage,she just didnt get the time to experiment with different guys and find out like many of her friends were doing at her age,at that time...which i can seriously understand. When it comes to bringing it up...sometimes it is just best to keep the secret...especially if you know that your husband is jealous. Have a awesome day/night...show kindness and respect and it will be given back unto you!!!   ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The Moderator of the group Central Cali Connections...check us out and if you like it...join and be a active member.Central Cali Connections groupblog         
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Same thing, after 20+ years I'm more into sex and experimenting while wife is not. I'm doing this more to keep sane and enjoy sexual situations before all I can do is read about them. I am very quickly approaching ummm..@#@!$40!!! lol so yup, it may be like a mid-life for me.. there will always be a younger, sexier, prettier girl next in line want to experience too while I'm young and can!
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I haven't played much as of late,but it was with a friend for a while that was ( well is ) married...with her thing,they been together since college and got married quickly.She was only with him,but wanted to try something different...nothing wrong in their marriage,she just didnt get the time to experiment with different guys and find out like many of her friends were doing at her age,at that time...which i can seriously understand. When it comes to bringing it up...sometimes it is just best to keep the secret...especially if you know that your husband is jealous. I have tried since i posted this, to leave little hints to hubby, and unfortunatly...well..i may have to agree with you on this and keep the secret...I'm a Pisces, and we by nature are very dreamy, and secretive anyways...so far i've been pretty gd at it!   
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This is the best discussion I have read in a long time. I have been married12 years. My wife is not into experimenting at all. She things reverse cowgirl is pushing the limits on sex. I am here to find someone who is like me clean cut professional type who can satisfy this inner desire for amazing sex!
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I think this is one of the most intriguing topics. I can only speak from my experience. The wife is just not into sex anymore. I tried all sorts of different things....sent her to one of those pleasure parties to buy a toy. I tried using it on her. Struck out. I have bought countless outfites from victoria secrets. Struck out there too. She will wear it that night and say stuff like I don't feel comfortable ect ect. I first thought neg-body image or something. Worked on the whole you look hott let's workout together. Struck out. Ect ect. So here I am I really enjoy sex and the entire experience of the chase anticipation the act and the afterglow. I do not feel guilty I have needs and if she can not or will not then I will satisfy them. I still treat her great and hell I think after I have a "meeting" with a girl I treat her better. This is my thing and she is not into it. Brought up convos along the way. So if the table was turned....I would be like hot damn you do have a sex drive.
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Great topic! Good responses also...looking forward to more, especially from the ladies  I am so much like you ass4u1 and in the exact same situation. Richard's post from above hits home except I do feel some guilt at times. I have tried numerous ways to spice things up with my wife and improve the quality and quantity but I guess our sex drives have changed over the years. We still have sex but she seems to be satisfied with once a week limiting things to maybe 2 or 3 positions. She doesn't want anything to do with receiving oral although she will give it occaisionally and trying anything new is out of the question. Oh well...I guess that is why I am on here  If your wife @ hm was into tryin new and different things.. do you think you would still stray? See I think once you cross the line even once...you desire to do it again...for men and women...and I totally believe you can love your spouse with all your heart and soul...and still stray, not cuz your looking for love, you already have that...we are looking for that 1st time feeling again..and in long marriages and relationships i dont care who you are....you do loose it! My hubby says all the time..."20yrs of marriage, if i was gonna cheat I wld of done it"! and I am thinking....the exact opposite...that after 20yrs of marriage...things need to be spiced back up, and that you are more at risk in a longer marriage, than lets say marriages in the 1st 5-7yr range. Just my opinion, good topic huh? luvs, ass! 
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I agree that once you cross, that the desire will always be there to do it again. I also think if my wife was still as adventurous as before, the wandering eye wouldn't browse as much. I'm on your side about trying to keep things spiced up as long as you can! Here's to avoiding the 'routine'
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I agree that once you cross, that the desire will always be there to do it again. I also think if my wife was still as adventurous as before, the wandering eye wouldn't browse as much. I'm on your side about trying to keep things spiced up as long as you can! Here's to avoiding the 'routine'  It's like i am the man in my marriage...but yes i do understand men in marriages that have difficulties w/the wives..being like not interested anymore, cuz we get too busy, or they let themselves go and dont take the time to make themselves feel like they are worth it...I dont understand why some women in marriages dont get that when their man cheats...it might be because she has not kept it interesting in the bedroom...cuz every man wants his home,(kingdom), his wife, family, and then wants his whore! lol and a good wife can be All of them and more! 
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Thanks sexy, I totally agree with that last statement.
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Same here, married 20 yrs and wife never wants to have sex anymore. I felt guilty at first, but have to do something to stay sane.
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