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The cow  

franticmother 59F
407 posts
7/29/2016 10:51 pm

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9/19/2017 6:12 pm
The cow

Often hear about an elephant in a room when there is a topic that needs to be discussed and no one will broach it.

I want to know what the general thought is about body size.

Too often I hear well if you are confident it doesn't matter what you look like, or the personality can make it.

Honestly, I think we live in a narcissistic society that will only accept perfection as the media markets it to us.

Would you date a person who is truly too thin, or too obese?
What do you consider to be attractive?

I have been spending too much time thinking and well, now I look outward for others' opinions.
Franticmother
GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
7/30/2016 8:04 am

 The eyes see what the eyes want to see. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everyone has their personal preferences. I think that most are attracted to what they themselves are.

For me, I can be attracted to physical beauty initially, however if they are not a good person, they become very 'ugly' in my eyes very quickly.

So would I date a person who is truly too thin or too obese? Maybe, or maybe not. When it comes to 'dating' someone, for me it's the total package of what they bring to the table. Not just one particular thing, like looks.

For me, I consider attractiveness, to be someone who is kind, generous, and gracious. Intellect, poise, and confidence are also very appealing to me.

As far as what 'Other's' think.... you have to be you. You can't be anyone else.


classicalrebel4 68M
1755 posts
7/30/2016 8:59 am

 I like tall women, I mean I really like tall women, any size. That aside I like women who are pleasantly plump. But if we click I won't turn anyone down. That a woman is someone that I can get along with and wants to be around me is more important than looks.
Please don't let me be misunderstood.


dreaming2nite 92F  
6015 posts
7/31/2016 7:15 pm

 I've also heard the whole "personality" and "confidence" comments from men, but when it came right down to it, nearly all of them admit that they are more visual creatures than anything else.

You are correct in saying that society (media) has conditioned us to view 'beauty' in a certain way, and both women and men succumb to this conditioning. But as Ghost says, it is personal preference as well. I am drawn to muscular fit men - that is my preference (which is rather amusing given that I am no longer fit and toned). But would I turn down someone who does not fit my "preference"? Perhaps - if the vibe I got from the person did not feel right. That is the personality piece.

I think that it is a combination of factors that attracts us to people and that this combination changes as we ourselves change. That is part of our growth as human beings. Our needs change - our desires change - our wants change. Ultimately it comes down to what makes one happy and satisfied...and that is different for all of us.
Dreaming2nite


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